Human beings are masters of their environment, yet we often fail to master ourselves. While nature controls animal populations, our own traditions and desires can lead to devastating consequences, particularly in marriage. What happens when the quest for a male child overtakes the very love meant to sustain a happy home?
This post dives into the surprising link between cultural traditions, family size, and marital conflict, revealing why a misplaced focus can bring agony to a family and how to choose peace instead.
The Human Factor in an Uncontrolled Population
Nature has a way of balancing itself. Organisms like oysters and codfish produce millions of offspring, yet their populations remain stable due to competition and natural checks. In contrast, the human population seems to defy these rules. We've mastered our environment with improved healthcare and food production, but we often fail to control our own growth, leading to a new set of problems.
The human factor—particularly the deep-seated cultural value placed on having a male child—has led to an alarming crisis in many homes. The story of a 60-year-old father of 13 girls who took a second wife to have a son is not just a tale; it’s a painful reality in many societies. What happens if his quest continues, producing more daughters? The entire family will be consumed by worry, hunger, and relentless anxiety.
In such families, children often suffer, becoming vulnerable to exploitation as child traffickers take advantage of their helplessness. This is not just a family problem; it's a societal nuisance.
The Real Cost of a Tradition
In a country facing economic recession, feeding a family of 16 becomes a relentless struggle where only the "tough" can survive. It is time for a change. It is time to:
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Curtail Childbirth: Live with the understanding that a wife is a helper, not a childbirth machine.
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Keep Marriage Vows: Men must show their love by honoring their marriage vows, even in the face of childlessness.
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Prioritize Happiness: Keep the wife and children you have happy and healthy.
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Live by God's Promises: Forget yesterday's regrets and live with the assurance that God’s promises can give you a better tomorrow.
Many marital depressions and conflicts are caused by these controllable human factors. The only person who can put your marriage asunder is you. Avoid it.
Redefining Family and Happiness
If God gave you four daughters, why continue to reproduce more? God who gave them knows how to handle your fears. Many innocent mothers have suffered and died as a result of too much childbirth, and many have lost their joy and health due to the stress.
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Why can’t we find it easy to live happily with one wife and a family of girls?
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Should the pursuit of a male child be more important than the love and happiness in your home?
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Does a child’s gender determine a marriage’s success?
These are the critical questions we must answer.
The greater percentage of family crises and marital conflicts are a result of these painful childbirth questions.
You must choose to live with the assurance that a happy family is a choice, not a gender lottery.
The most loving and godly thing you can do for your wife and children is to be present, to cherish them, and to trust in God's plan for your family's prosperity, regardless of tradition.
Your happiness is not determined by the number of your children or their gender, but by the love you share.
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